SELF-Therapy: R.A. - Summary and Options

WHEW! That was a lot of work!

Congratulations! You have shown that you really take your relationship seriously, that it is important to you, and that you KNOW it could even be better.

Share all your hard work with your partner! Tell them what you've done, and what you've learned. It would be a good idea if your partner did the analysis themselves too, so you could compare your results. (Just be sure you are talking about the same time period when you do the analysis!)

Me Too!

Adapting this analysis to the web was hard work for me too! I want to directly ask you now to "pay" for me work, not with money, but by giving me feedback!

PLEASE just click on my name at the bottom of this page and send me a note giving me your reaction to this analysis. If you saw any "glitches" or errors in these pages, please tell me about them so I can fix them! If you loved this learning experience, if you hated it, or if your reaction was someplace in between, please say so - and give me some details about why you feel the way you do.

If you'd like to put off writing to me for a while so you have time to absorb this learning experience, that's very understandable. But please don't forget. I need your feedback. So do all the other people who will be using this analysis in the future.

HOW OFTEN SHOULD YOU DO THE ANALYSIS?

If your relationship is going along very well and your results here have been good, I'd suggest that you redo the analysis no more often than every six months to a year unless you hit some rough spots. (Just enjoy the relationship, don't bother analyzing it!)

If your relationship is going through an extremely rough time right now, I'd suggest that you redo the analysis about every month or so. (You might even want to do it over right now, but choose another time period in your relationship when things were going well! You might pick up some valuable "hints from the past" about how to improve things now!)

If your relationship is "OK," but you are working on some important things, I'd suggest that you redo the analysis about every 2-3 months OR whenever you think things have changed considerably for the better or for the worse.

OPTIONS

If you haven't read the pages on OTHER WAYS TO LEARN AND ENJOY and HOW TO USE THESE PAGES please do it soon. I list MANY ways I can help you in your self-therapy and in your relationship.

If you would like me to comment on your relationship and the problems you are trying to solve, write me a note which describes your relationship problems in some detail. You might want to include the results of your analysis also. I will respond at t no charge (if it's your first letter to me..).

My goal is: To provide a NEW KIND OF HELP which is FREE or at least EXTREMELY INEXPENSIVE.

Everything I do will be consistent with that goal!

THANKS!

Thanks for caring about your relationship so much.

Thanks for all your work.

Thanks for any feedback you send.