HER SHAME STOPS HIM Q: I enjoyed the two topics about “Shame” at your site. I am engaged to someone who I believe suffers greatly from being ashamed and these articles describe her. However, she has never described herself as ashamed. I have a question: it...
YOU’LL NEED TO DO SOME INTERPRETING All of the examples given in this questionnaire are about primary, sexual relationships. But if you are analyzing a non-sexual relationship you can answer each question without referring to the examples at all. (For...
I sometimes answer brief questions (50 words or less) at no charge. Telephone counsling is also sometimes available. (Write first to ask if I have openings.) Learn more about these options here: Write to Tony Here are some of the brief questions I have received since...
Q: You often mention how getting love and attention is so important for everyone… yet some people are perfectly comfortable being self reliant and don’t want close relationships… If dismissiveness works fine for some, should (and could) anxious,...
You might want to read “How Does Abuse Happen?” to understand parts of this letter. She’s asking about a statement in that topic which says that the abused person of any age believes they are desperate, has given up their right to think, and believes...
